If you’re not married, You should start these now
Being married is not easy, it can be work, hard work. With the divorce rate being what it is today and the lack of “happy” marriages around us, it can be hard to argue against this thought.
The other day I was talking with a friend of mine having a casual conversation when the conversation turned and got a little serious for a minute and we talked about our wives. My friend said to me “ You know, sometimes I think about my wife and say to myself I’ve got a good one.”
Marriage is what you make it out to be. One of the best books that I read with my wife is called The 5 Love Languages. It was a tremendous blessing to our marriage. Here are three things that every couple should consider.
1. How do they Receive Love?
Your spouse does not receive love the same way you do. People don’t realize this. We think that our spouse will love the things that we love. We think that how we receive love is how our spouses would receive love. My wife is a Words of Affirmation type of person. She loves hand written cards, love notes, etc. When I realized this, it didn’t stop me from getting her a gift for Christmas, her birthday or just because, but it did cause me to think of ways that I can show her love in ways that would speak to her heart.
2. Our Expectations
Expectations that are not voiced are expectations that are never met. We can hold our spouse to expectations that are in our minds. If we never discuss those expectations with our spouse then there can never be a resolution. Without this discussion we begin to see the other person’s actions, or lack of actions, through the lens of our expectations that were never addressed.
3. Date Night
Never let your date night go. As we go through life, get married, have kids and life goes by, we tend drift from the person that we wanted to do all of those things with. A weekly, bi-weekly, monthly date night should be a cherished part of marriage. Couples go through life and the spouses become like roommates passing in the wind. As you grow as a person, use your dates night to invest in each other. Talk about your dreams, new interest, new hobbies, and all your hearts desires.
A Good One
Do I have a “good one?” Absolutely. I love my wife and I look forward to the rest of our lives together. I also want to watch her grow as a person, mother and wife. Do we always get along perfectly, no we don’t, but we don’t let the little things become bigger issues without dealing with them first.
If we focus on the three things mentioned above then our marriages can be one of the best things in our lives.
What things have you learned in your dating or marriage experience that cause you to think about your “Good One?”