Be in the moment. Focus on the moment. We live in a world full of distractions. It is at the point now that everything can be a distraction from something else. This can be hard to recognize in our relationships.
The next time you go to a restaurant, look around to see how many couples or groups of people have their heads down on their phones. You see fewer and fewer people actually talking to each other. There is more scrolling and liking things on Facebook than talking to the person across from them about their day.
Don’t Get Caught Up
We can be so caught up in getting the perfect picture for the “Gram,” posting all of our updates on Facebook and tweeting on Twitter that we don’t actually enjoy the things we’re posting about.
While there is nothing wrong with these things in and of themselves, when it comes to our relationships, we have to know when to put those things down and be in the moment.
So how do we stop the distractions and get to a place where we are enjoying life and not just posting about life? Here are three things that we can start doing today:
1. Turn off your phone.
Most of us have our phones with us at all times. It’s in our purses, pockets, or within arms reach. While there is nothing wrong with this, start living in the moment by turning off your phone for a part of the day. All day may not be realistic for you, but start with turning it off for a meal.
2. Have one meaningful conversation per day.
Once you start to notice how may people have their heads down looking at their phones you won’t be able to not notice it. Since we’re turning our phones off for a meal during the day, use this as an opportunity to have a great conversation. With no phone to distract us, we can dig deep into what’s important in life. If you haven’t noticed, between these first two tips we have the start to an awesome date!
3. Go for a drive.
Some of the best conversations that I’ve had with my wife have been in the car. Whether we were taking a road trip or just cruising round town, being in the car together with the radio down helps to just generate conversation. There may be a new restaurant that we come across, or we find a new neighborhood and drive through looking at the houses. Our phones become glorified cameras or a GPS if we get lost. Either way it helps us detach and be in the moment together.
I hope these things help you to be in the moment. If anything, maybe it will help us to notice how much time we spend with our heads down looking at a device. Let’s be intentional about enjoying the moments that make memories rather than relying on Facebook to post memories on our timeline.