Body Language

Our Favorite Movie

My wife and I were recently watching one of if not our favorite movie, Hitch, with Will Smith and Kevin James. If you haven’t seen it, the basic premise is that Will Smith’s character creates opportunities for seemingly ordinary but great men to get the woman of their dreams. It’s a little more in-depth than my description but I urge you to check it out. It’s a great date movie.

This last time that I watched this movie, one of the quotes stood out to me.

“60% of communication is body language and another 30% is the tone of what you say.”

Not sure of the truthiness of this statement but it’s a great way to have us think about how much we communicate to our spouse that is non-verbal. Is this important? A simple Google search for “why people get divorced” would show that communication is one of the top reasons.

Let’s Be Honest

I think that if we’re all honest with ourselves, we know that there have been times were our spouse asked us a question and because we didn’t like the way the conversation was going we hit them with the one word answer. “Fine, OK, Yes, and Sure” have been some of the more common ones that I have used in the past.

Can we change our body language?

1. The change has to start on the inside first.

Our bodies are a reflection of what we have going on in the inside. Our faces, tone, and everything else that goes into body language is a mirror that shows what we have going in our hearts and minds. So the first thing to do in changing our body language is to change our hearts.

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2. Smile more.

It’s been proven that smiling can improve your attitude and overall health. How we see world will start to look better. Now, let’s not be the creepy person trying to force a smile, but with a heart and mind that is not weighed down with stress and anxiety we can have a natural smile about positive things going on in our lives.

3. Learn to relax.

Either through quiet times or prayer, meditation or walks during the day help in relaxing us. If you’re like me, there are times where my mind seems to be running from one thought to the next and it’s running like this is a 100 yard dash in the Olympics. For me, part of my prayer time is relaxing, because I’m able talk to God about the things that are trying to stress me our. I can give Him problems and not have to carry the weight of those things.

There are many different things that we can do to change our body language. In marriage it can be just as important about what we say as how we say it. I know in my marriage I want to try to always keep an eye on what I’m communicating in tone and body language.

 

 

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Author: Leonard

I am father to LJ (Leonard Joshua), and Sophia. Loving husband to Kalene. Jesus is my Lord and Savior and I aim to live my life in a way that is pleasing to Him and that honors my family. I believe that every Christian should be bold to live their life and have the love to impact those around them.

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