3 Reasons Why Dinner and a Movie is not a Date

Dating Your Spouse

I’m a firm believer that married couples should “date their spouse.” This terms means that couples should not settle for the routine of being married. While this routine is easy to fall into, dating your spouse should push you to grow. It’s for this reason that I am a firm believer that dinner and a movie does not qualify as a date. Here are three reasons why dinner and movie is not a date.

  1. Lack of communication– Communication is the key to a successful marriage or relationship. While there may be some communication during dinner, most of the time it is not meaningful. I like to refer to this just as talking to one another. Talking is a conversation that you can have with anyone. Communicating is different because there is an intentional investment that you are looking to make. You are looking to invest in your spouse, you are wanting to learn more about them, and you want them to return that investment in you.
  2. Lack of thought/creativity– Dinner and a movie is a fall back idea of going out that many couples go to. Dating your spouse should require more thought and planning than picking a restaurant and movie selection. A date should be an event or series of events that were planned to be a new experience for the couple. Dates should be opportunities to make memories. They should be opportunities to pour into your spouse. This is where reading The 5 Love Languages really helped my wife and I. While we both enjoy movies, and going out to eat, we still need to invest in each other. My primary love language is Quality Time. My wife would plan dates where every aspect of it was geared towards us spending time together. Not in crowded places or loud places, but where the focus could be her and I. She spent time thinking about these dates, how to plan them and how the events would touch my heart. When we go on dates, they should touch the other person’s heart.
  3. Lack of Potential for More– Dinner and a movie is exactly what it seems. When a date is meaningful, there is the potential for it to turn into more. For the event or activity to turn into something that you and your spouse can do on a regular basis. It should hold a special place in your heart. One date that my wife and I planned was where we went to a closed event with a chef. We could get a lesson on cooking and then eat the food that was prepared. This was a great date for both of us because we both enjoy cooking. This has potential for more because we could communicate throughout the night. There was a great level of thought put into the date and we could invest in each other. We are looking forward to the next time that we can do something like this.

A Year of Purposeful Dating

2017 has begun. Let’s not let dinner and a movie be the staple of our marriages. We should start dating our spouse or continue to date them. Invest in your spouse like never before. Plan dates, read books together, and love one another. What are some of your favorite date ideas?

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Author: Leonard

I am father to LJ (Leonard Joshua), and Sophia. Loving husband to Kalene. Jesus is my Lord and Savior and I aim to live my life in a way that is pleasing to Him and that honors my family. I believe that every Christian should be bold to live their life and have the love to impact those around them.

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