How is your marriage? The state of your other relationships? If you can honestly say that your marriage is doing well and you have quality friendships, I would like to congratulate you! A lot of people can’t say the same.
So how did you get to be such an Awesome Person that has a quality marriage with quality friendships? The answer probably would have to do with spending time with those people, investing in them, sharing your heart and being open to receive from them.
What got you to here will keep you there.
Over time we can take for granted the spouse that we have and the relationships that we have. We can forget the time that we spent with our spouse. The good times and the hard times. From the honeymoon, to family trips and everything in between. All of those shared experiences are what make the relationship valuable.
So, what got you here will keep you there.
All of the ways that you’ve invested in yourself and in the relationships that matter most to you are what got you to this place in life. Those same things are what will keep you here.
Relationships are organic. There is a birth, life and death to them. They have to be maintained and nurtured consistently. What got us here will keep us here.
What relationships do you value? Which ones are most important to you? Do they challenge you to be a better person, or encourage you when you’re down? Now ask yourself? What am I doing to show that I value those relationships. Since relationships are organic, some of them need to die. What we think is a beautiful flower, is really a weed that we’re allowing to spread in our lives. Everyone you meet is not meant to be in your life forever.
Have a Plan of Action
Now that you know which relationships are the valuable ones and which ones are the weeds, it’s time to take action. We don’t want to let the things that we value most, fall by the wayside and we don’t take the time to tell that person how much we value them. Women tend to be better at this than men. They are able to plan time together and they make the most out of that time. My wife does this with her friends. They plan times where they can get together and have coffee or tea, or just uninterrupted talking time on the phone. Men sometimes struggle a little in this area. However, with a plan, men can have and should have valuable relationships as well.
A plan is only as good as the follow through. Establishing new relationships or maintaining the ones we have can be hard work. Will we always want to hang out with those people, or would we rather spend our time trying to rest from a hard week than talk on the phone? Maybe, but it is those times that communicate how much you value the relationship. You may not be able to have a date night with your spouse every week. What you can do is schedule the next time you can, put it in your calendar so nothing can take that time away from you. Do the little things like text them how excited you are to have a date night leading up to the day. All these little things communicate value and worth to the other person.
So What Got You Here will Keep You There. What are you doing to get There? Or What are you doing to stay There?