God designed men and women with particular needs that they are unable to meet on their own. He created marriage, in part, to allow husbands and wives to meet those needs for each other. To help bring them together.
Mark 10:8 (CEV)
8 He becomes like one person with his wife. Then they are no longer two people, but one.
A Woman’s Greatest Need
One of a woman’s greatest needs is for security. Security is more than just what you have in the bank account. While that does play a part in it. Being married to a sacrificial and sensitive man is more important to a woman than money.
In order to provide security, you must be willing to make some sacrifices. The Bible describes the sacrificial husband in Ephesians 5:25. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Jesus’ Example
Guys, Jesus gave His life for you, and we are to follow His example in our marriages. In other words, love her more than you love yourself. Sacrifice for her.
What does a sacrificial husband look like?
· He is dedicated to serving his wife.
· Puts her needs above his own.
· He studies his wife to understand her better.
· Communicates with her and shares what’s on his heart.
· He doesn’t need to be nagged. When she asks for something, he does it.
The Bible says a husband’s love for his wife is to be the same kind of love that Jesus had for the church. Jesus sacrificed Himself as the perfect Lamb of God.
How I try to Meet that Need
To meet your wife’s need for security, you must show the same sacrificial spirit as Christ, you may have to give something up. I made a vow to myself that whenever my wife comes in the door, I pause the video game I was playing and acknowledge her. I don’t want to communicate to her that whatever I’m playing is more important than her. Whether I lose the game or not, in that moment I’ll sacrifice it for her.
Sacrifice
You might have to sacrifice:
· A certain group of friends who are destructive toward your marriage.
· An interest or hobby that is pulling you from your family.
· An event or opportunity that takes you away from home or your family.
· A promotion that means longer hours or more travel.
· A job that is keeping you from being the husband and father she needs you to be.
Jesus sacrificed for us, and a husband is called to sacrifice for his wife. Meeting her need for security means using both your words and actions to tell her, “Nothing is as important to me as you are, and I will give up anything to make sure your needs are met.”
A Top Priority
A woman will feel insecure when the man she has married is selfish and detached. A husband’s actions should never communicate that his wife is low on his priority list. Wives will feel the most secure when she knows her husband is always thinking about her—and willing to sacrifice anything for her.
Guys, does your wife know that about you?
