Do you have a vision for your marriage? It’s not something that we think about or even consider when say our vows to our spouse. I think that it should be included in pre-marital counseling. Vision is important in every aspect of life, even more so when it comes to marriage.
Here are three reasons why we need vision for our marriages:
1. Vision provides clarity.
Having a vision for your marriage provides clarity on where you are going. Too many times we are married and then we go along with life. We get jobs, have kids, move into a house and life takes on this lackluster routine that was never intended.
” Where there is no vision, the people perish” Proverbs 29:18a
I believe that marriages must have a vision. We have to know where we want to go. Without clarity, our lives tend to happen to us and it should be the other way around. Our lives should be planned around our vision.
2. Vision leads to unity.
Couples fight because they don’t have a shared vision. Every aspect of marriage requires unity whether it be money, sex, or communication. A fight happens when each person has a different vision of what they want.
It is impossible to have a successful marriage when the husband and wife are divided. The marriage will not last when each person is competing with the other to have their vision be the dominant force.
“And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand” Mark 3:25
Marriage works best when there is a single focus and a single vision.
3. Passion and Energy come from Vision.
Without a vision for your life and marriage it is hard to get excited about either. We should wake up excited about what lies ahead of us. There should be some passion about future marriage goals and pursuits that you attempt to carry out together.
It is hard to have excitement or passion about where we are going if we do not know where we are going. It would be like trying to plan a vacation without knowing the destination. Are we going skiing, or on a cruise? Do we need hiking shoes or sandals? A plan with a clear destination needs to be established in order to prepare. When we know where we are going then like little children we can get excited about the destination. Each day you can wake up with anticipating eagerness. “Are we there yet?”
Its time that we develop a vision for our marriages and our lives. A united vision is a vital necessity for marriage. Start off short term goals. Set a six month goal and then grow together from 6 months, to a year and then to infinity and beyond!
