Happy Friday everyone!! Today is a good day to make time for you and your spouse. Date nights can be hard to come by, but I’m such a proponent of couples getting a date night in because it is beneficial for the health of your marriage. Getting in a regular date nights brings balance and is healthy for us individually and as couples. I know that it’s hard. Trust me, with two children under the age of 4, I know it can be a struggle. I’m also here to help. Let’s not let this weekend go by and not get a chance spend time with our spouses.
The last two weeks have been long weeks for me. It was a time where I wasn’t sleeping a lot, to the point that I was doing more harm than good to my body. Then I needed to rest. I’m learning as I get older that if you go too hard for too long, it’s not good. We need to rest and take care of our bodies. We have to rest or our bodies will make us rest. I was at this point and my body made me rest. I think I slept for almost two days straight.
Obviously me and my wife did not get to spend a lot of time together last week while I was going through that little episode. This week at work I learned that I would have to work six days this week. As soon as I learned that I called my wife and said “We Need A Date Night.” She agreed and we’re planning it now.
Every week sometimes everyday we face situations like the one I described above. They key for my wife and I is to recognize it and then do something about it. Couples go through various seasons, situations, and time periods. There is an ebb and flow to our lives and to our marriages. We have to recognize the season that we’re in and then plan so that we can come out of that season better than how we entered it.
So it’s Friday night. What are you planning? Here are two date ideas to help you:
1. Not a Lot of Time:
This one is for the parents. It can be hard to get 4 or 5 hours to get away and and spend time together without having to clear your bank account for a babysitter. So instead; Spread Your Date Night Out. Put the kids to bed and instead of jumping on your laptop or cleaning the house, spend some time together. Turn the lights down or light some candles, grab your favorite movie and relax on the couch. When you get another block of time, possibly Saturday, again wait until the kids go to bed, grab a your laptop or picture book and take a scroll through memory lane. While also planning for your future.
2. Vision Date:
This is the date where you talk about your dreams and goals for the future. Get dressed up or how ever you see yourself in the next 5, 10, or 15 years. Go test drive your dream car. Drive around town and talk about your dream house, what neighborhood are you in, how many bedrooms and bathrooms? Anything and everything is up for discussion. This is your dream! Bring your spouse along and share it with them.
Discussion Question
How do you and your spouse get time in together?
