In times of crisis, our true character shows. When we feel like we are backed into a corner, our real intentions, actions, and our hearts will show. Don’t believe me? Can anyone give a reason as to why stores are still selling out of toilet paper? Or why people were fighting in stores? Your true nature will show in times of crisis. So during this time of crisis, are your true colors, your true character showing?
We are showing our true colors in our marriages right now. We say we love our spouses but many couples during this time find themselves arguing, and not handling the confined space of togetherness well.
In the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 tells us what love is. I think that there is something that we can learn from this and apply it to this time.
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Love is patient and kind
More than anything we have to show our spouses patience and kindness. Patience in that you have to work through the adjustments together. Kindness also comes into play because making adjustments is not going to be easy and we should go the extra mile to be kind to each other.
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Love is not jealous, boastful or proud
Feelings of jealousy, or being boastful are ones that you have to be aware of during this time. In a confined space what may have started as a little thought can grow into something bigger where you become jealous, or boastful or proud.
None of these feelings are going to work in a marriage, but in this type of environment, those feelings will get amplified. Actually acting on these emotions will destroy your marriage.
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Love Does Not Demand It’s Own Way
Getting through any tough situation requires that everyone work together. Each marriage is going to face hard times. There are going to be situations that you’re going to be difficult. How will you handle them? Demanding your own way is not the right way. That will cause a divide in your house and can cause a rift in your marriage.
During a quarantine demanding your own way isn’t going to help you or your spouse get through it any faster. You’re going to have to learn to work together.
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Love Keeps No Record of Being Wrong
Keeping track or keeping score in a marriage is one of the fastest ways to destroy your marriage.
Every marriage counselor will tell you that keeping a scorecard of rights and wrongs will destroy your marriage.
Truly loving your spouse means being able to see past
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Love Never Gives Up
What I’m not saying here is that you stay in a relationship that is abusive in any way. What is important is that most marriages fail because of money and/or communication issues.
There are times that we give up to early in life. We quit things before we get a chance to see if they pan out. In our relationships, we can give up. When things get hard or we have to have difficult conversations, we want to leave the relationship.
Don’t give up.
Discussion Question:
What has this crisis revealed to you?
