How well do you know yourself? Better yet, how well do you know your spouse? Dave Ramsey uses the terms “free spirit” and the other being the “nerd” when identifying spouses. I like to think of them as the dreamer and the planner. In a marriage you need to have both. It’s a new year and to have successful relationships we need to know which one we are. In a marriage you need to know which one you are and which one your spouse is.
Being a Dreamer
My wife and I recently had this conversation. I also saw a video on YouTube with Kevonstage where he and his wife also talked about it. It’s worth the listen or watch. In our relationship, I am the dreamer and my wife is the planner. Sometimes this is a fluid relationship. What I mean is there are times where we reverse roles and I am the planner and she is the dreamer. I tend to dream for myself, and my family. I dream of business ventures, being able to bless people and setting our children up for success in life. While I dream these things in my heart, my wife helps to plan them out in the here and now.
Being a Planner
My wife can have moments where she is the dreamer. Where God has put something in her heart to do. A business, an idea or whatever it may be, she will dream about it. In these situations she is the dreamer and I am the planner. It’s a great feeling to be able to support your spouse in their dreams. If you want to be a more supportive spouse you can read an article I wrote about here.
There's nothing wrong with being a dreamer to a planner...the key is to know yourself Click To TweetSo, which one are you? Are you the dreamer or the planner? Knowing yourself allows you to know how to plan your year. It can help you set your goals.
Knowing yourself also helps you to know what you need around you. Your inner circle is vitally important to your success. Your inner circle shouldn’t just be people that are like you, you need people that will challenge you, think differently than you and want the best for you. If you don’t have an inner circle that should be a goal for this year. Developing the proper relationships can propel you to new levels or keep you grounded.
Discussion Question:
Are you the dreamer or planner and how do you know?