There is only one who is all powerful, and his greatest weapon is love- Stan Lee
I’m naturally a DC fan. Mostly because I’m a huge Batman fan, you can ask anyone in my family. With that being said, I also recognize the Grand Canyon-sized hole between the DC and Marvel movies. The Marvel movies were like my Saturday cartoons coming to life. I have enjoyed every minute of the past 10-11 year run of Marvel movies. I was able to watch Avengers Endgame opening weekend. Don’t worry if you haven’t seen it I’m not going spoil it for you.
Watching the Avengers over these past years has me thinking of their personality types, and how they relate to us in our marriages. For this list, I’m going to stick to the core characters. Which one are you?
Iron Man/Tony Stark –
Tony’s story arc (Arc is the progression of the character) has truly been one of growth. He starts out being very selfish and ends up being a mentor to Spiderman and a selfless leader. This is how we tend to be in marriage. We start our marriages being selfish and learn to grow into who we are destined to be. There is always room for growth. We should always be growing in our marriages.
Thor –
Thor started out as being the big gun. He was very cocky in his ascension to the throne in Aasgaard. He expected that everything would be handed to him. It took the loss of just about everyone close to him for him to come to the place at the end where he understands what true leadership is and the value of close relationships. In our marriages we can be like Thor was at the start of his arc. We can come into it swinging a big hammer. Everything has to be our way or the highway. This type of attitude will only lead to a loss. It could be the loss of a job, the loss of our health, the loss of maybe our family before we learn to value those things.
Captain America –
Cap starts out as the American Hero. He does everything by the book. Throughout his arc, he learns right from wrong and to think for himself. He learns to be able to adjust to each situation as it comes up. He sees the gray areas and in those areas, he grows as a person. In marriage, there are very few things that go by any man’s book. Marriage is full of gray areas and we must adjust to each situation as it appears. Our marriages can grow and thrive as we learn to adjust to these spaces.
Hulk/Bruce Banner –
Full disclosure, I did not like the arc of Hulk. There was so much of his story that was overlooked and glossed over. Nevertheless, we can still take a look at him/them. The Hulk/Bruce Banner arc is something we can all learn from. They are two sides of the same coin. Most of the current MCU (Marvel Cinematic Universe) struggle deals with finding balance within. Marriage can be the same way. We can find ourselves seeming like two versions of the same coin. How do we balance being an individual and being a part of a union? It can feel like there are times where we are fighting to be one
Black Widow/Hawkeye –
I am putting these two together for one reason. Throughout the entire MCU, they have been supporting the other characters above. They have moments in various movies where their roles either increase or decrease, but they’ve always been a supporting character. I don’t like it, but there is something here in regards to marriage. There is a time a place where we should be supporting our spouse. None of us, however, should always find ourselves where that is all we do. It can be difficult especially if one spouse has a dominating personality or is charismatic and others are just drawn to them. There is a time to support and there is a time to be supported.
Discussion Question:
Which Avenger are you in your marriage?
