Being single is nothing to be ashamed about. I’m not a fan of the way people just want to hook up these days, and that type of atmosphere is not a benefit to being single. Being single allows you the time, energy, and anything else that is needed to find what you want out of life. Too many times we waste the time where we are single being lazy, and trying to go from hook up to hook up. What we should be doing in building ourselves up, developing habits that will push us toward our dreams. So can you answer this question?
Can you go to the movies by yourself? The answer to this question tells more about ourselves than we think. When I was single and occasionally now, I will go by myself. Is there anything wrong with going by yourself? Absolutely not! When I was single if I told people that I was going or went to the movies by myself they would look at me like I had the biggest zit on my face. “Really? I could never do that!” Was usually the response I got. Being able to accomplish this one thing tells something about the other person and myself.
The answer to the above question tells us how we view ourselves. . Suffering from not being able to go to the movies solo isn’t a life threatening disease and it can be cured. As quoted from one of my favorite movies “You’re not sick, you’re single!” What should we do with our singleness besides getting the courage to go to the movies? Here are 3 things that you can do to take advantage of the time you have during this phase:
- Don’t go looking for someone to be with. Men and women can tell when someone is desperate. You’ll attract the wrong type of person. Don’t be vulnerable to everyone. Slow down, and enjoy your life.
- Know what you want. It’s easy for the slick talker to worm their way into your life when you don’t know what you want. I’m a proponent in having a list of what you’re looking for. It doesn’t have to be 500 items long, just long enough that you know what you want and more importantly what you don’t want.
- Dream great dreams. If you stumble or mumble through the question “Where will you be in 5 years?” Then you haven’t dreamed in awhile. While your single and your life may be at it’s most uncomplicated phase, dream of what you want you life to be in the next 5, 10, 20 years. Keep it in a journal that you can go back to.
- Develop good habits. If you want to be found, then be worthy of being found. The Bible talks about being unequally yoked (reference). When you’re looking for something long term, someone to do life with, you want to have the qualities of the type of person that you’re looking for.
- Get out of your comfort zone. Can you find Mr. or Mrs. Right in the bar at 2am? Sure but the chances are slim. Ladies you want a man with vision, go to an auto show. Men there are casting vision for themselves. Men you want a woman with purpose, check her social media. Is she trying to be an Instagram model or is she encouraging and uplifting to friends and family?
If you’re single or when you were single, could you go to the movies by yourself?
