Can I have a happy marriage? What does is take to have a happy marriage? You may have asked yourself this question or a variation of it. It doesn’t matter if you are single, dating, engaged or already married, this is a question that we ask ourselves. How do we go from where we are to a happy marriage?
I came across a video on YouTube, where the radio personalities were interviewing a celebrity. Or at least someone that was promoting their latest movie or book. It’s not important, what is important is that the question of marriage came up. The question that was asked was something to the effect of “can marriage work?” The answer that was given was No. What astounded me even more was the reason that they gave. They have never seen a successful marriage so they didn’t think it was possible. It took me by surprise but then I began to really think about it.
Just because I haven’t seen something shouldn’t mean that it isn’t possible. With the a divorce rate , most people could probably assume the same thing. They don’t know what a successful and happy marriage looks like. Here are 5 ways that we can have happy marriage.
- Be Nice. This is may seem like a no brainer, but we have to remember this at all times. Kindness can go a long way. Be as nice to your spouse as you would if you were on a first date.
- Learn to enjoy each other’s company. There is nothing wrong with your spouse being your best friend. That doesn’t mean you both like all the same things, but you can learn to enjoy each other’s company. Have fun together.
- Be honest. You have to be honest about the things that upset and frustrate you. You’d be surprised how your frustration can go away when you begin to talk about the issues.
- Small tokens of love. Do as many small demonstrations of love as you can. They will keep your emotional connection strong and even challenge your creativity. The small tokens of love only make the large displays better.
- Say I Love You. Say it as much as you can. In fact over use it. There are two types of I Love You’s that you can say. The first one is that one you yell over your shoulder while you’re heading out the door for work. The other is the one you say when you look into each other’s eyes and mean it with everything that is in you. Say the second I love You as much as you can.
We can all learn from each other. What have you seen or learned that showed you what a happy marriage can look like?
